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Crabtree

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In the time it takes for a kid to enjoy a dish of ice cream, the girl’s childhood was blighted forever. A familiar neighborhood park, an unguarded moment, an opportunistic predator: an all-too-familiar combination.

Pamela Crabtree, business service officer at the UT Urban Affairs Center until her retirement March 1, wants to make the story as rare as it is tragic. She knows the lifelong consequences of abuse; she was the young girl in the park.

While she’s looking forward to the rewards of retirement — travel, more time with her husband and three grandsons — the avocation she’s anticipating most eagerly is promoting Yell & Tell: Stop Child Abuse Now Inc., the nonprofit she founded in 2003. Its Web site is www.yelltell.org.

“Yell and Tell came out of my own experience,” she said. “I had kept my childhood abuse a secret; I hadn’t told anybody until I was in my mid-40s.” That was when her husband was kidnapped in a carjacking and robbery, a harrowing experience that Crabtree recounts in her book, The Gift of Hurt. (Read a synopsis at www.pamelacrabtree.com.) Though her husband survived his ordeal, it left the couple emotionally scarred.

“We both were suffering from PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder], so we went into therapy. That brought up all manner of garbage, which included talking about my abuse.

“It wasn’t like it was suppressed; I always knew I had been abused in Ottawa Park as a little girl, but I just never told anyone. When I talked about it, it was such a relief. If I had dealt with it long ago, how much misery I would have been spared, if I had been comfortable with telling my parents about it at the time.” (Both her parents died young.)

webgift-of-hurt-book-cover1Therapy opened Crabtree’s life in other ways. She earned an adult liberal studies bachelor’s degree from UT in 1997, following it with a master’s in 2004. “My master’s thesis has a long title — much of it is research on ramifications and statistics of child abuse,” she said.

She found camaraderie as a regular on a message board for adult survivors of child abuse. “We decided, though, we had to do more than just talk. I mentioned taking it a step further and organizing a rally.”

That became a reality in 2004 with a march in Washington, D.C. Though all but one of the message board posters who’d initially committed pulled out — “very common with abuse victims; follow-through is difficult because of the trust factor,” Crabtree noted — her family encouraged her to push on. With considerable investment of time and money, she and about 35 others marched from the Capitol to the White House. “It was over 90 degrees and miserable,” she recalled. “I thought it was a total flop.”

Instead, it was a beginning. Subsequent rallies held locally keep growing, with the seventh annual rally scheduled for Sunday, June 27, at the Walbridge Park Shelter House in south Toledo. This year the Yell & Tell rally will offer free hot dogs, chips and sodas along with educational materials and exhibits by community organizations. Mark Robinson, assistant director for the Northcoast Fatherhood Collaborative, will provide the keynote address.

The need for education is ongoing, Crabtree said: “When you think you’ve heard the most heinous crime against a child, someone comes up with something else.”

Crimes against children have an economic side as well, she added: more than $1,400 yearly in indirect costs for each Ohio family. “If we start taking care of our children, protecting them, we raise healthier children who are less likely to enter the justice system or psychiatric treatment or substance abuse,” she said.

So bring on retirement, Crabtree said: “I’m excited about what Yell & Tell can keep doing as a grass-roots organization.”

4 Responses to “UT employee’s crusade against child abuse opens new chapter”

  1. Randall Schlievert Says:

    Pam-congrats on a well earned retirement, and more importantly, all you’ve done for child abuse survivors. You are a true asset to our community.

  2. Sherry Bice Says:

    Wonderful article-I first read in the print version and was hoping it would be posted online as well. People would be surprised to know how many others have had similar experiences as a child. It only takes a few minutes for something to happen that will leave a lasting memory. As open as you may think you are with your kids, predators know what to say to a child to keep them from telling-I’ll hurt your favorite pet, your family, etc. They look for those weaknesses and prey on them. Always be suspicious or maybe curious is a better word of everyone who has contact with your kids.

  3. Sharon Barkimer Says:

    Best of luck to you on your upcoming retirement Pam…You are an inspiration to me and many, many others I’m sure. I know that you will continue your good work in the coming years…take care.

  4. Jeanette Eckert Says:

    Way to go Pam! Best wishes on your retirement! We’ll miss you!